You’ll Always Have What You’ve Now Have …Unless You Change to Follow the Simple-Proven Wheel of Life Plan and the Think and Grow Rich Formula that’s Helped Thousands
Anybody can wish for anything, and most people do, but only a few know that a definite system, formula, plan, plus a burning desire , are the only dependable means of acquiring it.
When you’re not getting what you want out of life, you’re not living up to your values and passions. As frustrating as it is, feeling discontent is actually your first step up. Wanting more out of life drives you to pursue bigger and better accomplishments. And when you’re clear on what drives you, you can manifest anything you want.
When you commit to being your best self, you can even learn how to get people to do what you want, since everyone is united by shared goals. With the right approach, you can learn how to get what you want in a relationship, career, business or any other facet of life.
What is it you really want in life? What is an area in your life that you’d like to change? Is it related to your health? Is there a skill you’d like to acquire? Do you want to take your relationship to the next level? What about your business or your career – is there something specific that you want to achieve? What in your life do you want to master? With a clear sense of what you want, you’re able to create a plan of action, goals and a step-by-step plan for getting there.
Mastering how to get what you want in life isn’t easy – if it was, everyone would be joyful and fulfilled. Getting what you want takes time, commitment and clarity of purpose. We are all capable of accomplishing the things we dream of; we just have to decide to go after these goals with everything we have.
There is an infinite abundance in this universe. Not only is there an infinite abundance of happiness, faith, love, courage, joy, humility, wisdom, generosity, peace, gentleness, meekness, patience, kindness, and all such qualities one could ever desire to express habitually, but there is an infinite abundance of every material thing that one could ever desire to have in order to express his individuality.
So, the reason that so many people do not have the above in abundance is not because there is any shortage, it is simply because they are not aware of how to push the right button of appropriation.
All things that one desires are available to one who understands the “Laws of Appropriation.” In other words, there is a simple set of rules by which all things are obtained, which anyone who really wants to learn them can learn and then be whatever he wants to be and have whatever he wants to have. If you will learn the ideas contained in this message and use it, we guarantee that you will realize your most cherished dreams.
11 Questions and Tips to Figure What You Want Out
1. What makes you happy?
2. What are your needs?
3. What are your personal values?
4. What gives you purpose?
5. What activities put you in a flow state?
6. What would you do if there were no limits?
7. Who do you admire or get jealous of?
8. How do you envision the patterns of your life?
9. What don’t you want?
10. What are your greatest accomplishments in life?
11. Are you willing to work hard?
Some Other Questions You May Ask Yourself
- What would I rather be doing?
- Who do I want to spend my time with?
- Who do I want to help?
- Am I in the right location to do what I want to do?
- What am I willing to sacrifice to achieve my goal?
- How do I define a “good life?”
12 Wheel of Life Questions That May Help You Discover What You Want
- How do you feel about your life as you look at your Wheel?
- Are there any surprises for you?
- How do you currently spend time in these areas?
- How would you like to spend time in these areas?
- What would make that a score of 10?
- Describe to me what a score of 10 would look like in that area?
- Which of these categories would you most like to improve?
- How could you make space for these changes in your life?
- What help and support might you need from others to make changes—and be more satisfied with your life?
- What change do you want to make first?
- So, what is the smallest step you could take to get started?
- If there was one key action that would begin to bring everything into balance, what would it be?
Consider a Wheel of Life Assessment
The Wheel of Life is a tool to help you explore where you are in your life right now and where you would like to be in the future.
This free assessment provides you a complete view of your life across the most common domains of living. Use this opportunity to reflect on where you are doing well, where you have opportunities for growth, and how you move forward to achieve your goals in life.
- Career
- Money
- Health
- Relationships
- Personal Growth
- Fun & Recreation
- Physical Environment
- Spirituality
Introduction to the Wheel of Life Assessment
The Wheel of Life is one of the most versatile coaching tools in your toolbox. It can be adapted to help you in almost any coaching situation. We think the wheel of life assessment is the ultimate coaching tool; simple and easy to use—and endlessly flexible. So if you’re ready to learn new ways to understand your life use this powerful and fun tool!
The Key Wheel of Life Categories
- Family and Friends: I usually split “Family and Friends” into “Family” and “Friends”. I do this for myself, and also offer it as an option to my clients.
- Significant Other: Other category name ideas include “Dating” or “Life Partner”.
- Career: “Motherhood”, “Work” or “Volunteering” are alternative labels you could use.
- Finances: Other label name ideas include “Money” or “Financial Security”.
- Health: The category name could be split into “Emotional” and “Physical”.
- Home Environment: This category can change to “Work Environment” for career or business clients.
- Fun & Leisure: The category name could change to “Recreation”.
- Personal Growth: The category name could be “Learning” or “Self-Development”.
How to Take the Life Balance Wheel Assessment
- Review the 8 categories on you Life Balance Wheel. If necessary they can split or rename category segments to add in something that is missing, or make it more meaningful for them.
- Rank you level of satisfaction with each area of you life by drawing a curved line across each segment (see image for example). Scoring is between 1 (very dissatisfied) and 10 (fully satisfied). TIP: We will demonstrate how to draw the line and add each score to their wheel.
- The new perimeter of the circle represents their “Wheel of Life”. Look at your completed wheel and answer, “If this was your Wheel of Life, would it be a bumpy ride?”
- Finally, identify at least one action for your life to work on to improve their scores on the wheel—and improve their life balance.
The Wheel of Life Exercise Works
The Wheel of Life Assessment works because it gives an instant helicopter overview of how you feels about your life. The scores in each area are a “gut” feel—what their instincts tell them—and not the “should” answer yoiu usually give.
We’re all so busy these days, it’s often hard to know how we really feel. We can look at our lives and say, “Oh yes, I’m happy”. But are we really? Because when we get into the detail of our lives and really see what’s there, there are always dis-satisfactions and areas that can be improved. Sometimes these are small, and sometimes they’re larger issues we’re so used to that we’ve stopped noticing them.
It’s the visual scoring on the life wheel that enables both you and your coach to see which life areas you feel good about—and which may need some work. And this feels authentic, empowering and good! Because from here we can work with you to make changes—and improve your quality of life.
For the most powerful results, your coach will then dig deeper into your answers using coaching questions to discover what specifically is getting in the way of a your ease and happiness. Then the final step is to use the life wheel to brainstorm ideas and come up with an action plan.
TIP: When action planning, prioritize the areas of life that have the lowest scores, identifying actions to raise those satisfaction levels.
11 Ways We Use the Wheel of Life Assessment to Help You Get What You Want
- In a sample session with a prospective client. Often potential clients are unclear on exactly what they want a coach to help them with. Sometimes prospective clients are shy to share personal issues with someone they’ve only just met. The life balance wheel is a great way to build trust in the coaching process. It gives an overview of how satisfied you are with your life, and also demonstrates the power of coaching and self-inquiry.
- To set and prioritize goals. Sometimes a client wants life coaching, but doesn’t know where to start! A completed Life Wheel can help you choose areas to set goals around. These are usually, but not always, the segments with lower satisfaction scores. The relative satisfaction scores can also be used to prioritize which goals to work on first.
- Demonstrate progress and the power of coaching. We do a wheel of life assessment with all new clients. Then we score the wheel again after about 3 months. The client’s life satisfaction scores have almost always increased—sometimes dramatically. This makes the Life Wheel a great way to demonstrate progress in a coaching relationship!
- As a Life Check-in. The Life Balance Wheel makes a great ‘any time’ tool to do a quick “check-in” with our clients. This can be how they’re feeling about their life today, this week or month. And once the client knows how to complete the wheel of life assessment, empower our clients to use it themselves and see what areas of their life might need a tweak!
- As a diagnostic tool to look for sources of stress or dissatisfaction. When a you feels unhappy, frustrated or down, the life wheel scores makes a great start point for discovering what might be bothering you. Where do you have low scores? What might be underneath that? Which segment is most impacting your stress?
- In a coaching program. Any time we start a coaching program with a client—whether it’s group or individual coaching—the Wheel of Life is a great way to “take stock” of a participant’s current life situation.
- In Workshops. The Life Balance Wheel makes an excellent introduction to any life coaching workshop. It’s also a great tool to help you understand where your stress is coming from in a stress management workshop.
- Use the Wheel of Life Assessment to help you envision how you would like their life to be. Using the 8 Wheel of Life categories, we ask you to write in each wheel segment what you would like your life to look like. You could also draw or cut out and paste pictures into each life wheel segment.
- Coaching Wheels can be a way to “test” which goals are most meaningful for you. We ask you to score each of their goals according to whether it improves their satisfaction in each of the 8 life wheel categories.
- We customize the Wheel and adapt it to whatever thorny problem you are having! Simply grab a blank coaching wheel and ask you to add the 8 biggest things stressing you out right now. Then score out of 10 how stressful each thing is. Or we try asking you to label the segments with 8 key things that make you a good mom/dad/leader/friend. Then you score yourself according to how well you think you are doing in each area, and wrap-up by creating an action plan to move forwards.
Why Clients Love the Wheel!
We think it’s popular because it gives people an instant helicopter view of their life. This knowledge allows you to see for yourself which areas of your life feels good—and which needs working on. This is empowering! It allows you to make different choices as to where you focus your time and energy for a more satisfying life.
But consider that the wheel is also a powerful and ancient symbol—deeply embedded in the human psyche. It implies movement, the cycle of life, change, the opportunity to steer your life, balance, sustenance and more. And this symbolism runs deep in our consciousness.
Key Considerations for Using the Life Wheel to Get What You Want
We know that life balance is personal and unique to each individual: what is satisfying or balanced for some may be stressful or boring for others. And at the core of the Wheel of Life Assessment we’re raising our client’s awareness. And it’s this awareness that allows you to plan a more satisfying life that’s closer to your own unique definition of balance.
Remember that life balance is not a one-time thing
It’s helpful to assess balance with you—over time. A regular check-in (with the Wheel of Life Assessment) can highlight useful patterns and help you learn even more about yourself. We can do this with your, or give it to your as homework to do yourself.
Remember that balance is rarely achieved for long—our lives shift and change often. So it’s helpful to remind you that the goal is not to “achieve” life balance. Instead, the idea is to ensure you are moving “towards” rather than away from it.
Balance and Self-Care Are Under-Rated Practices in Our Society
We find it strange that balance and self-care (that makes us feel good and perform better) is so dismissed and ignored.
And as coaches we are perfectly positioned to help you take better care of yourself. But be prepared to meet resistance and discomfort as we go against societal norms, and encourage you to rest, have more fun in life—and follow your heart.
The Wheel of Life Assessment Wrap-up
The Wheel of Life Assessment is an extremely powerful tool, giving you precious insight into yourself. And this understanding gives your the clarity—and motivation—to make changes and improve your life.
The Life Wheel makes a great in-session coaching tool to understand your life situation and brainstorm ideas. It makes excellent homework. And it also makes a great webinar/workshop exercise or take-home handout.
And of course, a blank wheel can be adapted (through labelling the wheel segments differently, or simply asking coaching questions to delve deeper) to pretty much any coaching situation.
And remember that what turns the Wheel of Life Assessment into a power tool is when you and your coach explore your results more deeply.
Using a Life Wheel helps us create a long and meaningful relationship between your coach and you.
Thinking into Results to Get What You Want
When you’re doing something that’s out of the ordinary, your mental programing, your paradigm, will try and stop you. If you want to win, you must keep going. Your paradigms may be masked in complacency, fear, worry, anxiety, insecurities, self-doubt, mental hurry and self-loathing―the result is keeping you STUCK….locked in a box and starved of your dreams and ambitions.
To change your life―you MUST start “Thinking into Results” change your paradigm. The change is not easy, but it’s worth it, and the results are lasting. We will show you his proven methods for doing so. This coaching will synthesize our decades of study, application, and teaching to:
- Explain what “Thinking into Results” and changing paradigms are and how they guide every move you make
- Teach you how to identify your paradigms
- Show you how to make your own Paradigm Shift
- Help you transform your finances, health and lifestyle when you “Thinking into Results” and change your paradigm
- Guide you on how to replace a paradigm that doesn’t serve you well with a new one that frees you to create the life you really want
We will break through the myth many people have about success―that long hours and hard work are sufficient to achieve lasting success. Because without “Thinking into Results” and changing your paradigm, no amount of hard work and long work hours will make a measurable, lasting difference in your success.
The Andrew Carnegie and Power of Thought Formula
This formula acts as a blueprint for personal and professional success, complete with detailed strategies, techniques and examples.
Focused on the premise that “thoughts are things,” the information extols you to let positive and successful thoughts permeate your mind, so that they can “influence both your conscious and subconscious.”
By managing and controlling your dominating thoughts, you’re better able to steer your way towards greater success – and riches – in all aspects of your life.
To accumulate any form of success in great abundance, you need to “magnetize” your mind with an intense desire, create a definite plan, and believe that you’re able to do so. This is where the Carnegie Formula come in.
#1 Desire
Your starting point for any achievement is desire. To turn any desire into “gold,” Hill suggests six practical steps:
- Fix in your mind the exact amount of money that you desire.
- Determine exactly what you intend to give in return for the money you desire.
- Establish a definite date when you intend to possess the money you desire.
- Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.
- Write out a clear, concise statement of the amount of money you intend to acquire, name the time limit for its acquisition, state what you intend to give in return for the money, and describe clearly the plan through which you intend to accumulate it.
- Read your written statement aloud, twice daily, once just before retiring at night, and once after arising in the morning. As you read – see and feel and believe yourself already in possession of the money.
#2 Faith
Faith is the “eternal elixir” which gives life, power and action to the impulse of thought! – Napoleon Hill
Considered the most powerful of major positive emotions together with love and sex, faith can be strengthened through the principle of autosuggestion. It is a state of mind which can be built through positive thoughts mixed with strong emotions.
To clear your mind of fear, doubt and unbelief, Hill proposed the following faith affirmations to build your self confidence (abridged):
- I know I have the ability to achieve the object of my definite purpose in life;
- I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment;
- I realise the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform into physical reality; therefore, I will concentrate my thoughts for 30 minutes daily on thinking of the person I intend to become and creating a clear mental picture;
- I know through the principle of autosuggestion that any desire which I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some physical means; I will devote 10 minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self-confidence;
- I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life; and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment;
- I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people. I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others;
- I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealously, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity;
- I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself;
- I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full faith that it will gradually influence my thoughts and actions so that I will become a self-reliant, and successful person.
#3 Autosuggestion
Autosuggestion rides on the power of self-suggestion to reach the subconscious mind and influence it with positive thoughts.
In contemporary parlance, it is known as the power of visualisation – a technique used by coaches everywhere to “trick” your subconscious mind into believing in a possibility through repeated instruction.
Here’s how Hill suggests it can be done:
- Find Ideal Environment: Look for a quiet spot where you will not be disturbed
- Close Eyes and Repeat Aloud: State the written statement of how much money you desire, the time limit for its accomplishment, and the description of the service or product you intend to give for the money.
- Repeat: Do this morning and night until you can see in your imagination the money you wish to accumulate.
- Written Copy: Place a written copy of your statement where you can see it night and morning, and read it just before retiring and upon arising until it has been memorised.
#4 Specialized Knowledge
Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organised into definite plans of action and directed to a definite end – Napoleon Hill
Knowledge in a specialised and valuable field is where power and wealth can be found.
According to Hill, knowledge will not attract money unless it is organised and intelligently directed through practical plans of action to the definite end of accumulation of money.
To deepen your specialised knowledge, you should spend your time and money on both formal and informal education. This can be done by selecting highly specialised courses in the subjects that you wish to focus on.
#5 Imagination
Touted as “the workshop of the mind,” imagination can be classified into two distinct forms:
- Synthetic Imagination: The ability to arrange old concepts, ideas, or plans into new combinations. This harnesses your experience, education and observations, and is mostly used by inventors.
- Creative Imagination: This is where the finite mind of man communications directly with Infinite Intelligence. It is represented through “hunches” or “inspirations” received by the subconscious.
Like any organ or muscle, your imagination can only be more alert with use. To strengthen your ideas generating mind machine, you need to have a plan.
#6 Organized Planning
To turn your abstract ideas concrete, you need a plan for action. This can be done through several steps.
a) Form a Master Mind Group
Ally yourself with a group of like-minded folks for the creation and execution of your plan (or plans). Before doing so, decide what advantages and benefits you may offer the individuals of your group.
Arrange to meet with these members at least twice a week or more often if necessary, and maintain perfect harmony with every team member.
b) Build Your Leadership Capability
Here, Hill describes some of the attributes of leadership which we should all aspire towards:
- Unwavering courage
- Self-control
- A keen sense of justice
- Definiteness of decision (more later)
- Definiteness of plans
- Doing more than being paid for
- Pleasing personality – leaders can’t be slovenly or careless
- Sympathy and understanding
- Mastery of detail
- Willingness to assume full responsibility
- Cooperation of others
In the same breath, we should also avoid the failures of leadership:
- Inability to organise details
- Unwillingness to render humble service
- Expectation of pay for what we “know” instead of what we do with that which we know
- Fear of competition from followers
- Lack of imagination
- Selfishness
- Intemperance (eg losing control through use of alcohol or drugs or other vices)
- Disloyalty
- Emphasis of title
c) Apply for Right Position
In this hefty section, we learn about how we should market our “personal services” as an individual to an organisation, and secure the desired job.
Much of it involves sourcing for the right opportunities through multiple channels (job ads, employment agencies, letters of application, personal networks) and creating a perfect “brief” (ie resume and cover letter).
You should also consider the following steps:
- Decide the exact job you want
- Choose company or individual you wish to work for
- Study your prospective employer’s policies, personnel and chances of advancement
- Concentrate on what you can give; forget about “a job”
- Arrange with an experienced writer to write a good resume summary and cover letter for yourself
- Present to the proper person with authority
d) Use the “QQS” Formula
Adopt the following:
- Quality of service: the performance of every detail, in connection with your position, in the most efficient manner possible, with the object of greater efficiency in mind
- Quantity of service: the habit of rendering all the service of which you are capable, at all times, with the purpose of increasing the amount of service rendered as greater skill is developed
- Spirit of service: the habit of agreeable, harmonious conduct which will induce fellow employees and associates to cooperate
e) Conduct a Self Assessment
To avoid the major causes of failure, it is useful to conduct a personal inventory assessment. In the book, we’re given a detailed list of 28 questions which you can ask yourself (you can find a copy here.)
f) Look for Opportunities
Finally, your plan should include taking stock of opportunities to gain wealth. This can be in virtually any industry where market demand outstrips supply.
#7 Decision
Opinions are the cheapest commodities on earth. – Napoleon Hill
Citing procrastination as the greatest enemy of success, the book extols us to make decisions quickly, and to change decisions slowly.
A key factor here is to reach your own decisions, and ignore the opinions of everybody else – the newspapers, gossiping neighbours, family members, friends, and others.
Worthy decisions often require immense courage. However, they’re always worthwhile to act upon.
#8 Persistence
Persistence is the cornerstone of any form of worthwhile endeavour. It allows you to overcome your failures, and to withstand the journey along the long road to success.
There are 4-steps cited in the book:
- Definite Purpose: Backed by a burning desire for fulfillment.
- Definite Plan: Expressed by continuous action.
- Independent Mind: Closed against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances.
- Friendly Alliance: Forming a Master Mind with one or more persons who will encourage you to follow through with your plan and purpose.
#9 Power of the Master Mind
Defined as “coordination of knowledge and effort, in a spirit of harmony, between two or more people, for the attainment of a definite purpose,” the forming of a Master Mind allows you to multiply your brain power.
Mr Andrew Carnegie’s Master Mind group, for example, consisted of 50 staff members whom he surrounded himself with for the purpose of manufacturing and marketing steel.
By identifying and enlisting people into your Master Mind group, you can increase your power – here it refers to the organised effort required to enable you as an individual to “transmute desire into its monetary equivalent.”
#10 The Mystery of Sex Transmutation
“When driven by this desire (ie sex), men develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.” – Napoleon Hill
This chapter invariably confounds readers. What it seeks to communicate, is this:
Can you convert your energies, emotional intensity and creativity for sexual expression into a positive force that will bring forth riches?
To do so, consider this two-step approach to transmute your sexual energy in a positive way:
- Mental Stimulation: Stimulate your mind so that it functions on a higher-than-average plane, using the same intensity and desire of a sexual encounter.
- Form Perfect Picture: Concentrate on the known factors of your invention, and create in your mind a perfect picture of unknown factors. Hold this picture steady until it has been taken over by the subconscious mind, and then wait for your answer to “flash” by your mind.
“The emotion of sex stands at the head of the list of human emotions, as far as intensity and driving force are concerned… The result of sex transmutation is the increase of thoughts to such a pitch that the creative imagination becomes highly receptive to ideas.” – Napoleon Hill
#11 The Subconscious Mind
To energise and feed your subconcious mind with positive thoughts, you should use autosuggestion to give ‘instructions’ that focuses on the 7 positive emotions:
- The emotion of desire
- The emotion of faith
- The emotion of love
- The emotion of sex
- The emotion of enthusiasm
- The emotion of romance
- The emotion of hope
At the same time, you should avoid any thoughts associated with the 7 negative emotions:
- The emotion of fear
- The emotion of jealously
- The emotion of hatred
- The emotion of revenge
- The emotion of greed
- The emotion of superstition
- The emotion of anger
An interesting point here involves the power of prayer. Here, it is suggested that if you pray for a thing but have fear as you pray that you may not receive it, your prayer will have been in vain!
#12 The Brain
Equating the brain to a “broadcasting and receiving station for thought,” Hill described how the brain, mind and subconscious works.
Let me extract some of its excerpts below:
“The creative imagination is the ‘receiving set’ of the brain, which receives thoughts, released by the brains of others… When stimulated or stepped up to a high rate of vibration, the mind becomes more receptive to thought which reaches it through outside sources.”
“The subconscious mind is the ‘sending station’ of the brain, through which vibrations of thought are broadcast. The creative imagination is the ‘receiving set’ through which the energies of thoughts are picked up.”
“… the principle of autosuggestion, which is the medium by which you may put into operation your ‘broadcasting’ station.”
#13 The Sixth Sense
Some call this your intuition or “hunch.” Others may call it your “genius” or “muse.”
Whatever (or whomever) your source of inspiration may be, Hill suggests that your sixth sense can be nurtured by cultivating in your creative imagination a team of “Invisible Counselors.” In his case, they included men like John Emerson, Thomas Paine, Thomas Edison, Charles Darwin, Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon Bonaparte, Henry Ford, and Andrew Carnegie.
By forming an imaginary cabinet, you can ‘tap’ the ideas, thoughts and knowledge of these distinguished luminaries in your mind!
Dispelling Negative Influences
Towards the end of the book, Hill elaborated at length about the six basic fears and how these could derail your efforts:
- The Fear of Poverty:
- The Fear of Criticism
- The Fear of Ill Health
- The Fear of Loss of Love
- The Fear of Old Age
- The Fear of Death
To overcome these and all other negative thoughts, he suggests the following practical steps:
- Recognise that you have a will-power that can be put into constant use
- Recognise that you are susceptible to all the six basic fears
- Set up habits to counteract those fears
- Recognise that negative influences work through your subconscious mind
- Keep your mind closed against all people who depress or discourage you in any way
- Clean out your medicine chest, throw away all pill bottles, and stop pandering to your hypochondria
- Deliberately seek the company of people who influence you to think and act for yourself
- Do not expect troubles as they have a tendency not to disappoint
You might be thinking that the Wheel of Life, Andrew Carnegie Formula and the Concept of Goal-Setting isn’t exactly groundbreaking, but here’s the stark reality: most people don’t know what they want or have a clearly defined set of goals when they start looking for ways to succeed.
More than that, what we are talking about goes far beyond merely having a vision for something greater. You need to build the foundation that will give you the formula, skills and plans you need and allow you to pursue your desires without fear.
1. Fulfill your essential needs
What does it mean to find fulfillment? It all goes back to our Six Human Needs: certainty, significance, variety, love/connection, growth and contribution. These are the deepest needs of all humans, and they drive everything we do. When these basic needs aren’t fulfilled, we get stuck in harmful cycles. Unhealthy relationships. Destructive habits and addictions. Unfulfilling careers. Lives filled with fear instead of joy.
To break these cycles and achieve what you want in life, you must break these cycles by fulfilling your essential needs first. Surround yourself with good people. Build authentic relationships. Discover your values and create goals aligned with your truest self.
When your needs are met through healthy relationships and lifestyle, you’re able to operate at your peak and give more fully of yourself. When you’re thriving, pursuing what you want enriches your life and the lives of others.
2. Overcome your limiting beliefs
Now that you’ve fulfilled your essential needs, you can focus on your limiting beliefs. These are the stories you tell yourself about the way you are and the way the world is.
Such beliefs are often formed in childhood, based on how we were taught to earn the love we desired most – or if our needs went entirely unfulfilled. These beliefs are deeply ingrained, but that doesn’t make them true. You can change your story, and when you do, you’ll change your life.
The fear of failure is often connected to limiting beliefs that you don’t deserve success, or that you’re not strong enough to survive failure. Relationships that don’t last are connected to beliefs that you don’t deserve love or a fear of being rejected when you show vulnerability. If you can’t seem to advance in your career, you may hold beliefs that you’re not skilled, leading to confidence issues.
Once you’ve identified these beliefs, you can be on the lookout for the negative self-talk that creeps into your inner monologue. Replace these negative thoughts with empowering ones that help you get what you want instead of holding you back.
3. Adopt empowering habits
Ultimately, your mindset is the basis for how to get what you want in life. If you let your circumstances, emotions and events outside your control dictate your mindset, you’ll always be distracted from your end goals. But when you learn how to control your mindset, you control your outcomes. One way to do this is to adopt empowering habits.
Meditation calms the mind, and when your mind is calm and centered, you’re in touch with your true desires, so you’re able to make actionable plans to get there.
If you’re new to mindfulness meditation, you can start a practice in just a few minutes a day. By making mindfulness a habit, you’re able to bring greater clarity and self-awareness to your day-to-day life.
Gratitude is another habit that can completely transform your mindset. When you realize that life happens for you, not to you, you’re able to approach challenges as opportunities instead of obstacles. You’ll form a deep belief in yourself and become truly unstoppable.
4. Define your goals
To get what you want, you must first define it. It sounds obvious, yet so many people go through life without defining what they want. With a clear sense of what you want, you’re able to create goals and a step-by-step plan for getting there.
Asking how to get what you want in a relationship, career or project isn’t selfish – it’s what keeps you inspired to grow. And in any collaborative endeavor, asking how to get people to do what you want really means inspiring people to work toward your shared goals. Great leaders inspire action instead of forcing it. They always share an exciting vision as well as specific steps needed to make it a reality.
What is it you really want in life? What is an area in your life that you’d like to change? Is it related to your health? Is there a skill you’d like to acquire? Do you want to create an extraordinary relationship? What about your business or your career – is there something specific that you want to achieve? What in your life do you want to master?
5. Write it down
Write your goals down – not on a computer, but on paper or in a journal. There’s something that happens when we write something down on a physical piece of paper. You become a creator when you write down your goals. You are acknowledging both to your conscious and subconscious minds that where you are right now is not where you want to be. Your brain then makes this distinction and becomes unhappy with the status quo.
One of the strongest incentives is a sense of discontentment. When you’re totally comfortable and relaxed, you’re not going to be inspired to do whatever it takes to make things happen. Discontentment is a power that you want on your side. There is real drive when you find something that you want to move away from. Tension and pressure can serve as powerful drivers of our actions. Use this as a tool to influence yourself so you can start to take actionable steps toward your success. Learning how to get what you want becomes a strategy instead of just a dream.
6. Get clear on the “why”
Now, get crystal clear. Write out the details: How would achieving this goal make you feel? What would it mean to you to get what you want? How will it change your life? When you’re clear on why your desires are important to you, learning how to get what you want (or how to get people to do what you want) becomes more natural.
By getting absolutely clear as to why you must achieve your goal, you will find your purpose. And purpose is stronger than outcome. The purpose of a goal is not so you can get the result – it’s what the end result will make you as a person. Learning how to get what you want becomes a source of fulfillment, since you’re acting in alignment with your passions.
Knowing this purpose will help keep you laser-focused, and it will help get you through the rough times. If you create a strong enough “why” to keep you going, you will have the fuel to endure anything that comes your way. Realize that material objects or a certain title will not make you happy. The only thing that will make you happy is the person you have become and what you have created in your lifetime.
So what are the reasons that you must achieve your goal? How will it change your life for the better? What lies underneath your surface aspirations?
7. Find absolute certainty
It’s perfectly okay to have no idea how to get people to do what you want or a strategy for achieving your goal. And it’s perfectly okay to set goals that go beyond your present ability or skill. What’s important here is that you operate from a place of absolute belief and faith.
Frame your goals with absolute certainty – that no matter what, you will find a way to make it happen. This is crucial for accomplishing your goals. Even if it seems impossible to you now, you know in your core that you can pull it off. When you have that fundamental belief, you will be taking back control of your life. So even though you may not be able to control the outside world or the challenges that come your way, you know that you will persevere and overcome.
So many people give up prematurely because they focus on the outcome and then stop and tell themselves, “I don’t know how to do that” or “I could never achieve that.” Or they fail along the way and decide to quit because it seems easier than trying again. What if you didn’t have to figure out how to get what you want , but rather believe that you will figure it out no matter what? That achieving your goal is not only within the realm of possibilities, it is an absolute certainty? Just imagine how that could change your life right now.
8. Deliberate practice and repetition
Think about the greatest coaches of all-time: Vince Lombardi and John Wooden, for example. They were famous for teaching the fundamentals to individuals who were already the best at what they did. And they did it over and over again. Why? Because repetition is the mother of skill.
To master how to get what you want, you cannot set goals one time, never look at them again – and then expect long-term results. Your subconscious mind may know the general direction to move in, but the power comes from daily practice and constant review.
People looking for a quick fix will never achieve mastery. Reaching your goals takes focus and deliberate practice: You have to repeat skills over and over again in order to get what you want. In personal and professional settings, you must practice the skills of empathy and respect before you’ll ever be able to learn how to get people to do what you want.
If it’s a new skill you want to acquire, learning how to utilize a deliberate practice strategy is a key part of becoming comfortable within your new practice. If you’re looking to achieve more in your business, then determine the core processes you need to shift and execute those on a regular basis. What about bringing more joy and passion into your relationship? Intimacy is a daily practice.
If you want to master anything you have to ingrain it into your system. And practice is a key part of that. Remember, consistent practice and constant focus – this is what will result in a profound and lasting impact on your life.
Mastering how to get what you want in life isn’t easy – if it was, everyone would be joyful and fulfilled. Getting what you want takes time, commitment and clarity of purpose. We are all capable of accomplishing the things we dream of; we just have to decide to go after these goals with everything we have.
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